Refuge for a Single Mom

Have you ever had so much that you just couldn`t take one more minute?

After a very rough weekend, Monday was just about the last straw!  In fact, it was the first time in a very LONG time that I felt hopeless!  I cried and cried to God, most of the day, asking why was I here?  Why was it all so hard?  Why me?  Why God why?

This weekend has been one of the loneliest, saddest, most defeated times of my life.  I think when you feel like your own children don`t like you very much . . . you figure WHY ANYTHING?

I mean, our children are the only REAL reason(s) any of us push through the bad stuff!

My teenager had informed me that I`m never nice to him and all I ever do is yell at him.  (SO not true!)  I am always encouraging him and telling him how proud I am of him.  What a wonderful kid, son, brother, grandson, friend, etc. that he is.  (But he`s a teenager!)

My pre-schooler had resorted to screaming, kicking and hitting to get his way.  And I have no idea where he`s picked up the phrase `stupid Mommy`!  (Uplifing!)  I felt like I was in one of those crazy reality nanny shows where they show you the most horrible, spoiled children you could imagine!

This is the hardest part about being a single parent.  We have to wear so many hats.  We`re Mom, Dad, breadwinner, peacekeeper, disciplinarian . . .  I feel like I never get to be `Christina` or even a `woman` or a `friend`.  ~ I`m always `on duty`!  *smile*

I am so tired, sad, lonely ~ it is very defeating and the enemy knows this.  I could go over this and over this every single day for the rest of my life and it will never make it any easier to cope with for me or you or anyone!

Funny thing is, if you go to God, if you go to His Word, you WILL find the answers you seek!

2 Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. 4 And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. 5 But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord, 8 being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.  James 1:2-8

I wrestled with whether or not to write and post this blog . . . I generally like to be a bit more uplifting and hopeful!  *wink*

Thing is, each one of us needs to know we aren`t alone.  If we know that someone else struggles with the same trials that we do, then it makes it a bit easier!  We tend to feel like there really is hope.

I`m getting through it!  It`s a `phase`!  It`s an attack by the enemy to bring me to my knees!  I refuse to allow this!  I refuse to give in to the attacks!  I have prayed and prayed.  I have prayed over my children.  I`ve prayed for clarity!  I have prayed for His supernatural protection from the attacks!  And I will continue to pray!  I will NOT give up!

12 Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. 13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. 15 Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death. 16 Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren. 17 Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow. 18 In the exercise of His will He brought us forth by the word of truth, so that we would be a kind of first fruits among His creatures. 19 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. 21 Therefore, putting aside all filthiness and all that remains of wickedness, in humility receive the word implanted, which is able to save your souls. 22 But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves. 23 For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror; 24 for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was. 25 But one who looks intently at the perfect law, the law of liberty, and abides by it, not having become a forgetful hearer but an effectual doer, this man will be blessed in what he does. 26 If anyone thinks himself to be religious, and yet does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this man`s religion is worthless. 27 Pure and undefiled religion in the sight of our God and Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their distress, and to keep oneself unstained by the world.  James 1:12-27

Sisters, just like Lynn Anderson sings:

”I beg your pardon

I never promised you a rose garden

Along with the sunshine

There`s gotta be a little rain some time

When you take you gotta give so live and let live

Or let go . . .”

I CAN promise you this, even when it seems as though no one in this world cares how you feel or how sad you are, or what you do or don`t do . . . God cares!  He is an Almighty, Awesome, and Healing Father.  He too wears many hats and He can be whatever you need Him to be.  ~Whether it be a Father, a Friend, a Brother ~ He is there for us!  EVERY TIME!  He never leaves us or forsakes us!

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.  Psalm 23:4

Now, as I pass through this particular valley, I would like to send praises to my Father for once again bringing me through.

As my week has progressed a few things have happened:

My teenager and I had a nice long talk Monday evening about `life` and it was a healing, eye-opening experience for both of us.  He really is a wonderful kid and so full of potential and possibilities!  I know God has a wonderful plan for His life.

Thanks to some good advice and some time off from work (I love working from home), I am not only putting my new schedule (YES!  The one I`ve been working on for weeks!) into effect, but I am utilizing the `time-out` tactic.  I can report, that this is working like a gem so far.  We will see the true effects after a full week or two.

Praise God!  He is always there!  ~Just like He promises!

2 Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord; 3 seeing that His divine power has granted to us everything pertaining to life and godliness, through the true knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence. 4 For by these He has granted to us His precious and magnificent promises, so that by them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world by lust. 5 Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in your faith supply moral excellence, and in your moral excellence, knowledge, 6 and in your knowledge, self-control, and in your self-control, perseverance, and in your perseverance, godliness, 7 and in your godliness, brotherly kindness, and in your brotherly kindness, love. 8 For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they render you neither useless nor unfruitful in the true knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For he who lacks these qualities is blind or short-sighted, having forgotten his purification from his former sins. 10 Therefore, brethren, be all the more diligent to make certain about His calling and choosing you; for as long as you practice these things, you will never stumble; 11 for in this way the entrance into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ will be abundantly supplied to you.  II Peter 1:2-11

Labels: Discouraged, Hope, Perseverance

We’ve all heard the expression ‘judge and jury’. Right? It means that some people are so arrogant, that not only do they ‘try’ you for faults and sins, but they ‘convict’ you as well.

Critical people, or those that criticize, are judging, even faultfinding. They criticize (or judge) your way of life, how you fix your hair or wear your make-up, how you raise your children . . . People deem it necessary to criticize you for just about anything they can think of. (It has become so popular in fact, perhaps they should include this as a new sport in the Olympics!)

Regardless, find comfort in this:

1 Therefore you have no excuse, everyone of you who passes judgment, for in that which you judge another, you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things. 2 And we know that the judgment of God rightly falls upon those who practice such things. 3 But do you suppose this, O man, when you pass judgment on those who practice such things and do the same yourself, that you will escape the judgment of God? 4 Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance? 5 But because of your stubbornness and unrepentant heart you are storing up wrath for yourself in the day of wrath and revelation of the righteous judgment of God, 6 who WILL RENDER TO EACH PERSON ACCORDING TO HIS DEEDS: 7 to those who by perseverance in doing good seek for glory and honor and immortality, eternal life; 8 but to those who are selfishly ambitious and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, wrath and indignation. 9 There will be tribulation and distress for every soul of man who does evil, of the Jew first and also of the Greek, 10 but glory and honor and peace to everyone who does good, to the Jew first and also to the Greek. 11 For there is no partiality with God.  Romans 2:1-11

In a nutshell, we need to realize that God is the only true judge. Therefore, not only does it NOT matter what people think of us . . . it really doesn’t matter what we think of them either! *smile*

Rest assured, God is keeping track!

Labels: Judgment

Criticism

Definition :

Obviously, there are several forms of and motivations for criticism.  None are very endearing, or easy to hear, but some are useful.  In fact, Poverty and shame shall be to him that refuseth instruction: but he that regardeth reproof shall be honoured.  Proverbs 13:18  According to God`s Word, he that `regardeth` constructive criticism (as it is `useful` and `intended to help or improve something`) will be honoured.  Those offering constructive criticism will often accompany their remarks with `an offer of possible solutions`!

Quite differently, criticism, just for the sake of `passing judgment` or `faultfinding` is useless and sometimes very painful.  Sometimes, the effects are devastating and can ruin relationships in families or with friends.  Often times, these types of comments are made out of anger or jealousy.  But the Lord promises us:  "No weapon that is formed against you will prosper; And every tongue that accuses you in judgment you will condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, And their vindication is from Me," declares the LORD.”  Isaiah 54:17

The Lord has made us all a certain way.  He made us to do certain things.  He made us to do certain things IN a certain way.  We all have particular mannerisms and personalities that make us who we are.  ~His daughters!

For example, I am very laid back in general.  There are very few things that I will do on a `whim`!  It also takes quite a bit to infuriate me.  (In fact, because I know my Lord doesn`t want me to be angry and grouchy and bitter, I am working even harder to be a more calm and objective person.)  Often, I try to separate my self from things and take in the big picture.  It`s a hard thing to do, but not improving my disposition is not healthy either.

It`s even harder to be criticized for it!  (Especially by family or friends!)

As I`ve mentioned before, our neighbors are interesting people and they like to `have fun` and some nights it gets loud and a bit scary.  (Saturday night was one of these kinds of nights! *wink*)  This past summer, when it got really bad (including fights and gunfire) we were all pretty terrified to live here.  We all lost a lot of sleep and it became stressful and miserable INSIDE our house.

Finally, I took a stand, not the one my son would have liked perhaps, but I stood with God!  I prayed for the protection of His guardian angels.  It took a bit of time to overcome the fear and the intimidation, but there is really only so much we can do in any situation ~ in the natural.  We`ve been looking for a home.  We made reports to the authorities.  We have to give it all up to God and trust Him for a solution ~ whatever it might be!

Criticism is no different.  (Not quite as scary! *wink*)  It is just more useless `junk` that if allowed to enter into your thoughts, it will pollute them.  Just like a poison, it isn`t healthy for your spirit, your mind, your body, your demeanor or your relationships to harbor things said critically!  ~ No matter the source.

Bind up the `junk` and give it away to God.  Trust Him to deal with it!

Labels: Criticism, Encouragement, Positive Thinking

My very best friend and author of `A Walk Through the Valley` has addressed a very important issue ~ one that needs brought out into the open and exposed, dealt with and discarded!

"For everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come to the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed.”  John 3:20

It is a very enlightening and revealing look into a new book called “The Secret”.  Very eye-opening!

Please take a moment and read it here:

A Walk Through the Valley ~ “The Secret”

Be blessed and have a wonderful, God-filled weekend!

Recently, during a church board meeting, focused on `re-grouping` and `re-structuring` our `outreach` efforts, our Pastor concentrated mainly on Acts 2 which outlines the original spread of Christianity and the power of the church.

I felt very motivated and inspired from this, so I thought I might share it!

Acts 2:37-47

Now when they heard this, they were pierced to the heart, and said to Peter and the rest of the apostles, “Brethren, what shall we do?”

Peter said to them, “Repent, and each of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins; and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.”

“For the promise is for you and your children and for all who are far off, as many as the Lord our God will call to Himself.”

And with many other words he solemnly testified and kept on exhorting them, saying, “Be saved from this perverse generation!”

So then, those who had received his word were baptized; and that day there were added about three thousand souls.

They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles` teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.

Everyone kept feeling a sense of awe; and many wonders and signs were taking place through the apostles.

And all those who had believed were together and had all things in common;

and they began selling their property and possessions and were sharing them with all, as anyone might have need.

Day by day continuing with one mind in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they were taking their meals together with gladness and sincerity of heart,

praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord was adding to their number day by day those who were being saved.

This basically sets the guidelines for salvation, the `steps` so to speak.

“Be saved from this perverse generation!” ~ That sounds familiar!  I still find myself in amazement at the corruption that continues to plague our society.  Most of which is completely legal!

“They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles` teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.”  ~  How many of us could actually use the words `continually devoting` in reference to our teaching, fellowship or prayer?  To anything that pertains to God?

“Everyone kept feeling a sense of awe; and many wonders and signs . . . “  I STILL feel a sense of awe when I see God`s work and supernatural power!

“praising God and having favor with all the people”  Do you receive favor?  I can tell you first hand, if you approach people with sincerity and with the love of God shining through, you will be surprised at how many times you will receive His favor ~ for no apparent reason!  Let me give you an example . . . I had returned an item and I waited 6 weeks for the credit to be applied to my credit card . . . nothing happened!  Once again, I called the company and explained the circumstances.  Like most other representatives, this gentleman could have demanded proof of the return or presented me with some sort of series hoops to jump through!  He did not.  He immediately issued me credit for the item and for several other charges I had incurred due to his company`s error.  (Credits that were not originally offered to me!)  The total for this ended up being $88.98!  That`s a chunk of change!

My main point here is simply this . . . get excited about God!  Approach everything in life BECAUSE of God!  Get excited about eternal life!  This world we live in is just temporary!  If the moms at the PTA give you a hard time and judge you ~ so be it!  If the ladies in the hair salon whisper because they know your ex-husband ~ so be it!

Personally, I`m tired of the judgment!  I have carried guilt, condemnation, fear, insecurity and all sorts of other kinds of `junk` around for long enough!  The people looking down their noses at you do not have a clue what is going on!  Stand up straight!  Hold your head high and look to your Father in Heaven for support!  He created you in His image!  He created you with a plan!  You are a beautiful, magnificent daughter of the Almighty God in Heaven!  Praise God!

Ultimately, this is your ministry!  People (sinners) will see your beauty (inside and out) they will begin to yearn for what you have (God)!  You certainly do not have to be arrogant about it, but just be you, be the YOU that God personally made you to be!  Be the YOU that has been born again ~ made new!  I was reminded recently that God knows how many hairs are on your head!  If He is concerned about something so insignificant, imagine how much thought and time and love He put into who you are!  Glorify Him in everything you do!  Amen!

Labels: Repentance, Salvation

Gosh!  I have just been so tired and achy lately!  Perhaps when you factor in all of the ice breaking and snow shoveling I`ve had to do?  Between two sidewalks, a path for the newspaper boy and digging my car out . . . it might be understandable.  Poor Me!  *grin*

We just get so bogged down with all of the routine and laboring tasks that we can`t think about much else.  All parents, all homeowners have a tough time that`s for sure.  Single moms ~ we`ve got to do it all.  Unless of course you are fortunate enough to be able to hire someone to shovel snow, cut grass, clean house, etc.  (I`m not quite there yet, but plan to at least get a housekeeper in once a week to cut down some of the work.)

I do really enjoy cutting grass and being outside.  It is something you can look back over and see a job well done.  AND the grass will take a week or so to grow back!  *wink* Shoveling snow ~ not so much!  That is a task I gladly pawn off on my 14-year old!  Luckily, he is taking on more responsibility and more of the `guy` jobs around the house!  (Thank God for sons!)

We have to remember, through it ALL, that our Heavenly Father is right there for us!  He`s better than any exercise regime, vitamin pill, diet, supplement or even sleep!  (Those things are all extremely important in context.)  My point is, however, that no matter how low we feel, no matter how tired, worn out, no matter how many muscles and joints ache ~ God is there to pick us up, dust us off and put us back together again!  For I will [fully] satisfy the weary soul, and I will replenish every languishing and sorrowful person.  Jeremiah 31:25

You just have to believe in Him, seek Him and nurture your relationship with Him!  And you have perseverance and have endured for My name`s sake, and have not grown weary.  Revelation 2:3

When I was 17 (a long time ago) I lost my maternal grandmother to breast cancer.  (Before there were survivors.)  This woman was something else!  She and my grandfather divorced in a day and age when it was not accepted practice.  She worked two jobs to support my mom and aunt and she never complained!  Never!  What a life!  What a woman!

Well, when I get down on myself, I like to think about my grandma.  I think about how proud she`d be if she saw me today.  If she knew how much I love God, how much I love my sons and how hard I try every day to live a life of victory!  This particular verse reminds me so much of her:  Yet those who wait for the LORD Will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.  Isaiah 40:31

Gain NEW strength!  Mount up with wings like eagles!  Run without being tired!  Walk without becoming weary!  ~By the power of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior!  Amen!

Labels: Strength, Weary

Since beginning my blog and developing a bit of a following, I`ve struggled as to whether I should write every day or not.  Don`t get me wrong!  I really enjoy writing this blog and it is a sincere and heartfelt goal of mine to reach out to other single moms.  (Or anyone that needs encouragement!)

This particular weekend, has been a bit trying in quite a few areas.  And, as I`ve mentioned before, I`m struggling to implement a schedule for my household and my business.  One idea I`ve had is to schedule differently for the weekends as that usually includes grocery shopping, visiting, church and household duties.

Therefore, I`ve decided to post Monday through Friday.  I spend quite a bit of time on my blog writing and once I feel led to a particular topic, I research Bible verses and try to learn as much as I possibly can on the subject.  Dedicating this kind of time does take away from other things, like my family and personal reading.

My Saturday and Sunday blog research time will now be dedicated to personal readings from the Word and any books that I`m attempting to read!  (Yes, anyone that knows me very well realizes how funny this is!  I am `attempting` about five books right now - all of which some very wonderful people have either purchased or recommended to me!)  I am NOT a book reader, but this is another personal task I am working on in order to exercise my brain and gain more knowledge and understanding of several topics!  *wink*

So, I`m really hoping that this won`t upset anyone or send anyone away.  I am very dedicated to this ministry that God has put on my heart.  I have been a single mom for a very long time – most of my adult life!  God has worked with me and molded me into something much better than what I was.  I have come very far along my path.  (Not nearly far enough yet, but we are all a work in progress.)  We are beautiful, wonderful daughters of our Heavenly Father and he has a plan for each one of us!

It is so hard sometimes to remember that you aren`t alone or that the world won`t end if you don`t` have an immaculate house!  Thing is, your Heavenly Father loves you SO much.  He sent His ONLY son to this Earth to die on a cross, wearing a crown of thorns, while being stabbed in the side, starved and ridiculed.  –Not to mention that they nailed him to a cross before they ever got started!  Could you imagine sacrificing your only son to save another?  How many of us can honestly say that we`d be willing to do this?

Well, that is a rhetorical question, but think on it!  Imagine!  Imagine how much God must love each and every one of us!  Because He DID!  He not only gave Jesus Christ so you could be saved, but He allowed Him to suffer!  To suffer for all of our sins so that we would never have to again!  So that we could go to the Father and repent and never look back!

I challenge you Sisters!  Repent and WALK ON!  Walk on to salvation!  To inner peace, happiness, joy, love, comfort, calmness and more!  More than you have ever known!

So, although I have no doubt that part of God`s plan for my life includes reaching out to my Sisters, I feel that it would be best to take a bit of a break every week and refresh and revive and spend a bit more time with my family, with myself and most importantly with God!

Therefore my heart is glad, and my glory rejoiceth: my flesh also shall rest in hope.  Psalm 16:9

Labels: Rest, Restoration

I have been tagged by Melly!

Labels: Thankfulness, Thanksgiving

Have you ever watched this cartoon with your kids?  It`s a loopy little Cartoon Network show about this pink dog that is always protecting his owners from all sorts of weird occurrences in a zany little town called “Nowhere”.

Do you feel like you live in “Nowhere”?  Or that all kinds of bad things always happen to you?

Sometimes it feels that way.  It feels like you never get a break or that `if it weren`t for bad luck you`d have no luck at all`!  "Do not fear or be dismayed! Be strong and courageous, for thus the LORD will do to all your enemies with whom you fight."  Joshua 10:25

We may not have a little pink dog to watch over us, but we sure do have something better!  All you have to do is ask, and our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ is always there!  Always!  Be strong and let your heart take courage, All you who hope in the LORD.  Psalm 31:24

Some days it takes a little more than others to be strong and courageous.  We just have to have faith and `wait for the Lord`.  Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.  Psalm 27:14

Unfortunately, as single moms, our `some days` seem to be more frequent.  There is less help with the kids, less encouragement, `less` of a lot of things!  But fear not my Sisters!  It`s just a ploy, an attack, by the enemy to discourage us and bring us down.  He thinks we`re more vulnerable and susceptible to his attacks!  But we`ll show him, won`t we?  We have the love and grace of our Heavenly Father and that is MORE than enough!

Labels: Courageous, Strength

Today, I don`t really have a target or an idea.  I`m actually a little `off`.  I really have been for a while and I just can`t place it.

Things are going much better in general.  New doors are opening, new opportunities have presented.  I should be delirious.  I was even able to invest money into our business and pay some bills that have been `lingering` around unpaid!  Whoo Hoo!  *big smile*

If it makes any sense at all, I`m feeling a bit guilty.  We have struggled for so long and had to pinch so many pennies, that I feel guilty spending money.  I`m worried that we`ll `run out`!

Well, the fact of the matter is, that I`ve hoped for so long and `believed` for so long, I`m just taken aback that `better days` are here!  Perhaps I never really believed at all?

Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.  Hebrews 11:1

And without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is and that He is a rewarder of those who seek Him.  Hebrews 11:6

We are told to expect God`s supernatural power.

But earnestly desire the greater gifts. And I show you a still more excellent way. I Corinthians 12:31

"Look among the nations! Observe! Be astonished! Wonder! Because I am doing something in your days-- You would not believe if you were told."  Habakkuk 1:5

Well, I`m still learning this!  He amazes me and surprises me ~ each and every day!  He is just so awesome and miraculous!

"Nevertheless I did not believe the reports, until I came and my eyes had seen it. And behold, the half was not told me. You exceed in wisdom and prosperity the report which I heard."  I Kings 10:7

Do you ever have one of those moments when you`ve come through a tough battle and you look back over all the events that took place and it dawns on you!  If all of those things hadn`t happened, you wouldn`t be where you are or who you are!

He will fulfil the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them.  Psalm 145:19

You realize, finally, or even again, that God really does know what He`s doing!  And often, we feel like idiots because we ever doubted!

Ask and it shall be given unto you, seek and ye shall find, knock and it shall be opened unto you.   Matthew 7:7

Praise God!

Labels: Believe, Condemnation, Doubt, Guilt

Good grief!  Is it just me or does it seem like everyone you know is sick?  Is everyone in your house sick?

We`re all sick, snotty, stuffy and achy!  *big smile*  My kids are miserable and demanding and I feel like a truck ran me over!

I usually get one really good dose of the flu every winter.  If this is it, then I`ll consider myself lucky.  Although I ache and would think about sacrificing my left arm for a nap, I don`t have any other major symptoms!  Hallelujah!

I haven`t even felt like spending time at the computer today!  Now that IS sick!  *wink*

The good news is, God is our healer.  And He said, "If you will give earnest heed to the voice of the LORD your God, and do what is right in His sight, and give ear to His commandments, and keep all His statutes, I will put none of the diseases on you which I have put on the Egyptians; for I, the LORD, am your healer."  Exodus 15:26

He is our healer and He is always there for us, even during cold and flu season.  O LORD my God, I cried to You for help, and You healed me.  Psalm 30:2

Whether it be you, or your children or both, go to the Father in prayer.  Earnestly and whole-heartedly pray to him for relief and healing.  Have faith in His power and goodness!   . . . and the prayer offered in faith will restore the one who is sick . . . James 5:15

He truly loves us and would not have us suffer; all we have to do is trust in Him.  And He said to her, "Daughter, your faith has made you well; go in peace and be healed of your affliction."  Mark 5:34

If you have been fortunate enough to avoid the illness that seems to be attacking the nation widespread this Winter, pray anyway!  Pray especially!  Blessed be God, Who has not turned away my prayer Nor His lovingkindness from me.  Psalm 66:20

Continue to pray for protection from the `bugs` that loom around at the grocery store, the schools, the work place, church, etc.  "Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they will be granted you."  Mark 11:24

Labels: Believe, Faith, Prayer

Do you lose your temper?  I do.  This is one of those things that the Lord has me dealing with.  I constantly tell myself that I can be calm all the time.  I even `coach` myself!  *wink*  But, it remains to be a huge stumbling block for me.

On Monday, my 3-year old and I went to the market.  Well this is a treat for him for several reasons.  He loves getting out, he loves `meeting` all the other little kids and he loves all the `new` food in the house.  In fact, he feels the need to eat and drink everything that night!

Oh my goodness!  Can you say frustrating?  Every time I turn my head, he raids the refrigerator and steals another juice box.  These are `supposed` to last all week!  The worst part is, he has one out, but it has gotten warm.  Well, he can`t drink that!  (Duh Mom!)  He has to have a cold one.  Growl!

Well, perhaps, everyone loses their temper at one point or another and for one reason or another.  It really is not the best thing!

One translation of  Proverbs 29:11 reads:  A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back.  Another reads like this:  A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.  Boy, doesn`t that sum it all up?

In other words, losing your temper is like putting your whole mind right out there!  All over the place.  Essentially, losing it!  Losing your mind.

Also, He who is slow to anger has great understanding, But he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.  Proverbs 14:29

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Labels: Anger, Frustration, Temper

Do your kids say this a lot?  Mine do!

Do you say it?  I do!  Not so much any more, but I still think it sometimes!

It can be very frustrating when you do and do for everyone else and you seem to get nothing in return.  Not even gratitude.  Not even a `Thank You`!

Moms especially have it rough.  We do for our kids, our parents, (I still help my ex-husband from time to time), our jobs, our co-workers, our friends, our neighbors, our church, the kids` school, the elderly, the sick, the hungry . . .

"Beware of practicing your righteousness before men to be noticed by them; otherwise you have no reward with your Father who is in heaven.   “So when you give to the poor, do not sound a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, so that they may be honored by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. “But when you give to the poor, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving will be in secret; and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.  Matthew 6:1-4

Sometimes; we, as human beings, as women, can get very weary and even disheartened.  The enemy uses this.  He will try to attack us and convince us that we aren`t appreciated.  (Sometimes he does a really good job too!)  *wink*  The enemy would have us cheated out of the blessings that God promises us!  And he did not delight in blessing, so it was far from him.  Psalm 109:17  `He did not delight in blessing` ~ He didn`t bless others.  `So it was far from him` ~ He did not receive blessings in return.  In fact it says `it was far from him` ~ FAR!

What we have to remember here is that this is an excellent way to be!  This is the way Christ would have us be.  Doers.  Givers. Blessings to Others!  To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.  I Peter 3:8-9

The Lord promises to bless us for generosity and kindness.  Be a blessing Sisters!  Step out in your faith and your love of God and bless others!  The generous man will be prosperous, And he who waters will himself be watered.  Proverbs 11:25

Let the love of God shine through you like a light unto men.  There are so many lost and hurting souls in this world.  They don`t know God`s love.  We have a duty to show them ~ to be a vessel.  If we as Christians don`t show God`s love and kindness to others, not only will they not see God`s love ~ they may wander further away!  “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden; nor does anyone light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. “Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.  Matthew 5:14-16

Labels: Blessings, Kindness

1 He said to His disciples, “It is inevitable that stumbling blocks come, but woe to him through whom they come!   2 “It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea, than that he would cause one of these little ones to stumble.   3 “Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.   4 “And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, `I repent,` forgive him.”   5 The apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our faith!”   6 And the Lord said, “If you had faith like a mustard seed, you would say to this mulberry tree, `Be uprooted and be planted in the sea`; and it would obey you.   7 “Which of you, having a slave plowing or tending sheep, will say to him when he has come in from the field, `Come immediately and sit down to eat`?   8 “But will he not say to him, `Prepare something for me to eat, and properly clothe yourself and serve me while I eat and drink; and afterward you may eat and drink`? 9 “He does not thank the slave because he did the things which were commanded, does he?   10 “So you too, when you do all the things which are commanded you, say, `We are unworthy slaves; we have done only that which we ought to have done.`”   Luke 17:1-10

It seems like Jesus is implying that the unwillingness to forgive has caused many to lose their souls.   Halley, Henry H. Halley`s Bible Handbook. Grand Rapids: Zondervan Publishing House, 1965

Yikes!   Is holding a grudge really worth losing your soul?   Not me!   I mean there are a lot of people in this world that have done some pretty miserable things to me, my children, my parents, my friends ~ a lot of them!   Some will continue to do so!

But think about it, if you hold grudges and refuse to forgive, you are allowing anyone who has hurt you to control each and every day of your life.   Not only that, you are giving them control over your eternal life as well!   In most cases, they are continuing to affect your life (and those you love) WAY more than you ever affected theirs!  They`ve probably never given you or your pain and heartache a second thought!

I would have to say that forgiving AND forgetting is tough.   Extremely, tough!   You have to literally let go of the disappointment, the anger, the hatred, the resentment and give your emotions to God.   And My people who are called by My name humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin and will heal their land.   II Chronicles 7:14

Walk away from the issue and move on to a higher level in life.   We are commanded to forgive up to 70 X 7 times, just as Peter was:   Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”   Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.   Matthew 18:21-22

Look at it in perspective . . . Jesus Christ died for our sins.   He died so that we could seek salvation and forgiveness from the Father.   He could very easily say, `hey I died for their sins but yet they forsake me, I`m done with them, I`m going to hold a grudge`.  How awful would that be?   Could you imagine missing out on eternal salvation because you committed a sin when you were 19 and Jesus won`t forgive you?   Never having the opportunity to confess your sins and receive the cleansing of the blood of the Lamb?   I shudder to think about it!

Thank the good Lord that this is not the case!   But one whom you forgive anything, I forgive also; for indeed what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ, so that no advantage would be taken of us by Satan, for we are not ignorant of his schemes.II Corinthians 2:10-11

God is willing to forgive us, even our most outrageous sins.   If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.   I John 1:9   Who are we to say that we cannot forgive our neighbor for theirs?   Do we really think so highly of ourselves that we are above it?

On the other hand, one might say, `Hey, I`m not above God, I`m just too weak, I don`t have it in me to forgive`.   (I hear `ya!)   Luckily, we don`t have to do it alone!   By the grace of God, by faith, we have help.   And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do the things that are pleasing in His sight.  I John 3:22   We just have to trust Him and ask Him to help us!   "With people it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God."   Mark 10:27

Praise God!

Labels: Forgiveness

For those of you that have come accustomed to hanging out with me and aren`t `single moms` ~ I apologize.  Today is a single mom day.  ~It`s what I know!  *big smile*

This week in general has been pretty difficult for me.  I`m having some issues with being a single mom!  Hang on though!  Not because I am one necessarily!  I love my children and I love where my life is headed.  I love God and He is taking care of us.  ”Therefore repent and return, so that your sins may be wiped away, in order that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord”  Acts 3:19

Certainly, if I could choose my life to be different, I would!  My sons would have a father and I would have a loving husband.  There would be someone to share the joy with as well as the responsibility.  We`d have a white picket fence and a dog!  *wink*

For whatever reason though, this is where my life is.  Probably the biggest part of it is because I chose to live a sinful life full of satisfying one fleshly desire after another!  I spent quite a bit of time with all the wrong kinds of people and I was taken advantage of.  In MANY ways!  "Therefore I will judge you, O house of Israel, each according to his conduct," declares the Lord GOD. "Repent and turn away from all your transgressions, so that iniquity may not become a stumbling block to you.  Cast away from you all your transgressions which you have committed and make yourselves a new heart and a new spirit! For why will you die, O house of Israel?  Ezekiel 18:30-31

Regardless, whatever set it all in motion, God is using what I know and what I`ve experienced to reach out to you!  Turn to my reproof, Behold, I will pour out my spirit on you; I will make my words known to you.  Proverbs 1:23

My issues this week, however, are with the stereotypes that surround us.  Why is it that people can`t just accept us for who we are?

Jesus Christ DIED for my sins and has forgiven my transgressions ~ why can`t people?  (By the way ~ we ARE just people!  All of us!  Look at God!  Is anyone greater than Him?)  Perhaps we should all take a look.  Remember this when someone treats you like a nobody!  And if you are treating someone like a nobody ~ you had better pray about it!  "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand."  Matthew 3:2

Single Moms are some of the strongest, most courageous women you will ever meet!  If it snows ~ they shovel.  If the grass needs cut ~ they cut it.  The house, the laundry, the dishes, and meals ~ they take care of all those!  The kids` homework ~ Mom.  Discipline & chauffeuring ~ Mom!  Groceries ~ Mom!  Most of these women have little to no family to help out and certainly can`t afford a babysitter or housekeeper!  Did I mention `can`t afford`?  Yep!  Even after leaving their babies for 40 ~ 60 hours per week, they STILL can`t afford to support them!  Please don`t get me started on Health Care!  Welfare?  Oh heavens!  The `system` is seriously amiss in most cases.  When we cry, we cry alone and late at night.  We have to schedule this in after the kids` bedtime so we don`t upset them too!

Often times, these women were `dumped` by their husbands.  They are left with nothing.  Just getting out of bed each day is a serious challenge!

Some might say `boo hoo` you deserve it!  OK ~ I`ll bite!  Why?  Why do I (or any other single mom) deserve to be overwhelmed, abused, neglected, stereotyped, alienated or just plain treated badly?  Did I miss the memo where everyone was told to ignore the single mom?  Worse yet . . . did I miss the one that said I couldn`t be a Christian if I was a single mom?  Personally, I am very tired of my marital status being an issue!  Is it totally necessary for me to air my dirty laundry and share my sob story in great detail in order for other human beings to accept me?   I am a person too.

"Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.”   Luke 17:3

God loves me!  God forgives me!  Shouldn`t everyone else?  Or are there really people out there that think their opinion is more important than His?


Deuteronomy 24:1-5
Law of Divorce


1 “When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house, 2 and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man`s wife, 3 and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife, 4 then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife, since she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the LORD, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the LORD your God gives you as an inheritance. 5 “When a man takes a new wife, he shall not go out with the army nor be charged with any duty; he shall be free at home one year and shall give happiness to his wife whom he has taken.

Labels: Forgiveness, Lonliness, Repentance

What a trying day Thursday was for me!  Technical errors, missed meetings, differing viewpoints, unmet obligations, broken agreements . . . The list goes on & on.  By the end of the day, I felt like, emotionally, I could not take one more `thing`!  It is exhausting!  It seems like it is much harder to recover from mental exhaustion than physical exhaustion.

Do you realize, though, when we list all off our gripes and complaints, when we acknowledge all the `junk` in our lives, we are actually giving credit to the enemy?  Yeah!  Giving him credit for being a huge nuisance!

He has control over the Earth.  He makes all the `junk` that filters in to your otherwise copasetic existence!  For all of them were trying to frighten us, thinking, "They will become discouraged with the work and it will not be done." But now, O God, strengthen my hands.  Nehemiah 6:9  The enemy wants nothing more than to keep you beaten down, broken and vulnerable to his influence.

So, in an effort to overcome my particularly trying day, I want to examine discouragement and leave it behind me!  *smile*  Why are you in despair, O my soul? And why are you disturbed within me? Hope in God, for I shall again praise Him, The help of my countenance and my God.   Psalm 43:5

Personally, I don`t like feeling discouraged or defeated.  Gosh, I`ve battled with depression almost one third of my life!   Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day.   II Corinthians 4:16  Day by day, regardless of the circumstances in this world around us, we are being rewarded.  We are growing closer and closer to Eternal Life!

Our Lord and Savior offers us hope and promise.  All we have to do is allow Him into our hearts and love Him.  Share our lives with Him and seek to live a life that glorifies Him!   "Listen to Me, you who know righteousness, A people in whose heart is My law; Do not fear the reproach of man, Nor be dismayed at their revilings.  For the moth will eat them like a garment, And the grub will eat them like wool. But My righteousness will be forever, And My salvation to all generations.”  Isaiah 51:7-8  God is so good!  His righteousness, His salvation ~ they are good.  The little piddly `junk` that interferes with our lives is only temporary!  It`s just a hurdle.

Did you ever run track?  Or have to jump hurdles in gym class?  Well, I ran track.  I hated the hurdles!  They were really hard for me to jump!  I would tell myself I was going to jump them and when I`d get close, I`d get scared.  I`d totally get psyched out!  What if I tripped?  What if I fell?  Emotional and mental hurdles in adult life are much like those in track and gym!  And boy, they are scary!

"Then you will prosper, if you are careful to observe the statutes and the ordinances which the LORD commanded Moses concerning Israel. Be strong and courageous, do not fear nor be dismayed. . .   I Chronicles 22:13

Do not fear or be dismayed!  Be strong and courageous!  You WILL prosper!

Labels: Courageous, Discouraged, Strong

A term I grew up hearing and knowing was `God Fearing`. I always knew that besides my parents or the authorities, if (when) I messed up, I would have to answer to God. If I didn`t change my ways, if I wasn`t on the right track, God would deal with me appropriately. I also knew that this would be worse than anything my parents or the law could dole out! Evil shall slay the wicked, and those who hate the righteous will be condemned. The LORD redeems the soul of His servants, And none of those who take refuge in Him will be condemned. Psalm 34:21-22

Over the years now, my relationship with God has grown into one of love and adoration. I still fear Him (like a strict parent), but I don`t` live in fear of Him. Rather, I worship Him and praise Him because He is awesome. But godliness with contentment is great gain. I Timothy 6:6 He has shown me time and time again how wonderful He is and how merciful He is! But flee from these things, you man of God, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, perseverance and gentleness. I Timothy 6:11 The Amplified Bible translates Godliness here as: `the loving fear of God and being Christlike`.

My question today though, where`s the fear in this world?

The world is so consumed with hatred and vulgarity. It also seems to me that people are so driven by being noticed and recognized, that they will do anything to get attention ~ even bad attention. Perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth, supposing that gain is godliness: from such withdraw thyself. I Timothy 6:5

I find it very terrifying that people don`t fear the wrath of God anymore. (How can we expect them to be intimidated by the legal system or jail time?)

Abstain from every form of evil. I Thessalonians 5:22 Couldn`t be more plain than that! EVERY form of evil. Not just some, not the ones that are convenient or the ones that aren`t `socially` unacceptable EVERY form! Even the smallest ones or the ones on the lowest scale.

I`ll be the first to admit that it is hard to do this. But we have to try. We have to correct areas of our lives that we are convicted in and move on to the next issue. Constantly walking farther along the path to righteousness. Constantly excelling and improving our way of living. Flee from these things . . . pursue righteousness, Godliness, faith, love perseverance and gentleness! But refuse profane and old wives` fables, and exercise thyself rather unto godliness. For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.I Timothy 4:7-8

You can`t just overcome drinking, or drugs or gambling and stop there. ~ Don`t get me wrong, those are major addictions and everyone has a different struggle with each. Overcoming addiction(s) is a great accomplishment and to be admired. The point I`m making is that it`s not the only one. There are many, many issues in all of our lives that we need to overcome. No matter your level of commitment to the Father, there is something that you can improve upon to walk closer to Him.

Let`s face it, we are not perfect or even close to being comparable to God. This is something we must always strive for and something only completely attained once we arrive in Heaven with Him!

But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness. Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation.II Peter 3:10-15

Labels: Godliness, Righteousness

Sloth (a.k.a. Laziness) What ugly words. Nobody wants to be lazy, nobody wants to admit they`re lazy – but in general we`re a pretty lazy species. Remote controls, power windows, riding lawnmowers, leaf blowers ~ the list of `modern conveniences` goes on and on. Not too many of us could say we`d rather do without them either!

The desire of the sluggard puts him to death, For his hands refuse to work. Proverbs 21:25 Does that make you a little uncomfortable? Me too! What about this: Slothfulness casteth into a deep sleep; and an idle soul shall suffer hunger. Proverbs 19:15

I just wonder how many people would prefer to sit in front of the TV or computer screen as to mow the lawn or plant a garden. ~ Let`s not even talk about housework! *wink* I saw a button on a message board once that read, “If my house is clean ~ the computer is broken.” Cute? Yeah, I thought so too! (Worst of it, it`s true!)

I rationalize it all because I`m essentially working. Building websites, designing ads, running link exchanges, editing photos, etc. Yes, I AM working, but there is no balance.

Just as I mentioned before, I need to implement a schedule and stick with it. Included in that schedule is housework and chores. Ewh! Can I even put in to words how much I hate doing dishes? Or picking up toys? (They never stay there!) And laundry! Talk about a vicious cycle! *big smile*

Well, the plain and simple truth is, I HAVE to! Who else is going to do it? The bright side to this for us single moms is that there is no one to be upset with us for neglecting the house! The down side is, there`s no one to help!

Not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord. Romans 12:11 Not lagging. Diligent. Fervent in spirit. Serving the Lord! ~ Gosh! Cleaning my house, showing it attention, being hard-working, this behavior serves the Lord? And we desire that each one of you show the same diligence so as to realize the full assurance of hope until the end. Hebrews 6:11 Don`t we all want to glorify God and spend eternity in Heaven?

This world continues to destroy itself. Society continues to be more corrupt. There are no morals or values. People aren`t afraid of eternal damnation, let alone the legal system. Violence wasn`t enough on its own, now it has become more and more atrocious and unbelievable. I don`t know about you, but the hope of eternal salvation sounds better and better. I think that is good motivation to step away from the computer and do some housework! *smile*

Labels: Diligence, Laziness, Sloth

How well do you manage your time? I must admit that I`m not very good at it. My day is pretty unorganized and is at the mercy of my pre-schooler`s whims. I`ve tried many times to implement a schedule and it just hasn`t worked out. Here`s something to think about though: Poverty and shame will come to him who neglects discipline, But he who regards reproof will be honored. Proverbs 13:18 Also this: He will die for lack of instruction, And in the greatness of his folly he will go astray. Proverbs 5:23

WOW! So it would seem that all of the advice we hear on time-management and scheduling might serve a higher purpose! For bodily discipline is only of little profit, but godliness is profitable for all things, since it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. I Timothy 4:8

I have desperately been feeling a need to get more organized in my life as a whole. There are so many things that I need to do and several that I want and enjoy doing. It seems like if you aren`t organized, you are going crazy all the time and accomplishing nothing. Why is it so difficult to set up a routine and stick to it? Why do we dread it so? All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness. Hebrews 12:11

It would surely seem that even in Godliness, we are to seek organization, be diligent and disciplined. Not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord. Romans 12:11

What better way to deliver the message of hope and salvation than to visibly be `put together`? To totally have your act together in everything you do! And we desire that each one of you show the same diligence so as to realize the full assurance of hope until the end. Hebrews 6:11

I am normally a bit scattered and distracted, always stressing my next task or obligation. Why would anyone envy that? Why would they want to have what I have? Simple. They wouldn`t. It is extremely important to your family`s mental health and well being to manage your time better, but it is most important to God. We have a duty to Him to reflect a life that is enviable to others. They should see us, our demeanor, our actions, our responses and say, “Hey, I want to live the way she lives! How can I do that?”

Labels: Godliness, Time Management

Do you often find yourself running late? Boy, I do. It seems like no matter how early I start to get ready, something happens. The kids won`t cooperate! The car won`t cooperate! Traffic won`t cooperate! Let`s not even talk about hair, make-up or clothes! It seems like the tighter the schedule the more issues that crop up! (There`s always that one sock or shoe that `hides`! *wink*)

I`ve had to work really hard at overcoming this challenge too. I mean here I am now with two children to get ready and essentially no help. It takes a lot of motivation and sometimes it even takes skipping some things.

It`s comforting to know that not only does God not skip over things, but His timing is always perfect. He is never too early or too late! There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven— A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance. A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing. A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away. A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak. A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace. Ecclesiastes 3:1 - 8

As I`ve mentioned before, we`ve been looking for a new house for almost 4 years now. We`ve seen all kinds. We`ve considered building. We`ve considered a modular. Here we are now, back to buying an existing home. We really want to make the right decision!

The house we`ve found this time is really great. It`s actually been on the market for some time; however, I never paid it any attention because of its location. If you consider the events that had to take place for me to finally decide to consider it, well it`s pretty amazing. He has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also set eternity in their heart, yet so that man will not find out the work which God has done from the beginning even to the end. Ecclesiastes 3:11

We have prayed and prayed for God`s perfect will. It`s been hard to completely trust Him, because as humans, we`re pretty impatient and controlling by nature! Thus saith the LORD, In an acceptable time have I heard thee, and in a day of salvation have I helped thee: and I will preserve thee, and give thee for a covenant of the people, to establish the earth, to cause to inherit the desolate heritages. Isaiah 49:8

We`ve been saying for a long time `when we move` or `we`re moving soon`! Actually, most of our family just blows us off! You can see the doubt in their faces! I mean, unless the U-Haul is sitting in the driveway . . . you aren`t moving! Right? *big smile*

Of course, we aren`t out of the woods yet (or rather, in our case, IN the woods *smile*) there are still a lot of events that will have to take place for this to all work out. Finally, however, we have learned to give this particular situation up to God. But as for me, my prayer is unto thee, O LORD, in an acceptable time: O God, in the multitude of thy mercy hear me, in the truth of thy salvation. Psalm 69:13

You see, if this house doesn`t work out, it wasn`t `meant to be`! There will be another house out there that is absolutely perfect for us. If we will be willing to completely trust God and trust His perfect timing, in due course, we will be happier than we could have ever imagined.

Hang in there Sisters! Whatever it is that you need or dream of, God has it all figured out for you. He`s done all the leg work! Trust Him! Trust His timing!

Labels: Patience, Timing

I can see mine! ~Through supernatural lenses! *wink*

I am not only hoping and praying for good things, but I am SEEING them come to pass. I imagine and believe for good health, safety, happiness, joy, success, prosperity, everything that my Heavenly Father promises to me and my family! "And all things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive." Matthew 21:22 All things that I ask for in prayer, that will improve our lives, that are good for us, that I believe for, will be given! Isn`t that hopeful? What greater guarantee in life than one from God?

You see, I know, that he promises us repayment for that which has been stolen from us. He promises riches and a crown of gold. More than we can even comprehend! And Jesus said to him, “`If You can?` All things are possible to him who believes.” Mark 9:23

We have to do our part, we have to believe, and I also think that we have to pursue. I don`t think that we should have to be obnoxious or ruthless about it, but persistent. If you want a better job ~ get the proper schooling, if you want your own business ~ pursue it! In the meantime, trust, believe, hope and dream. "Truly I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, `Be taken up and cast into the sea,` and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says is going to happen, it will be granted him. "Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they will be granted you. Mark 11:23-24

If we are doing our part, then God will do His. And Jesus said to the centurion, "Go; it shall be done for you as you have believed." Matthew 8:13

However, it is incredibly naïve to just sit and ONLY pray, doing nothing of your own capacity and think that God will reward you. In effect, you are only committing another sin by being lazy and unmotivated. (We`ll deal with laziness separately.)

The simple fact is, you have to believe. You have to look beyond the scope of earthly things and circumstances and believe for higher, greater capabilities! "If I told you earthly things and you do not believe, how will you believe if I tell you heavenly things? John 3:12 Essentially, if you believe that God can provide and excel you on Earth, then you can believe and seek out the Kingdom of Heaven!

Labels: Positive Thinking, Way of Thinking

Earlier in the week I commented that if we teach our children vengeance that they will learn vengeance and they will practice vengeance ~ ultimately keeping them from the gates of Heaven.

I`ve been asked to expound on this topic a bit. So here go my thoughts . . .

First of all, let me tell you a bit about my neighbors . . . they are not very nice people. They never have been and I`ve lived here 15 years. When I moved in their children were just little.

I learned very early on that you do not challenge them. If their dog (which should be tied) `makes dirty` on your sidewalk, where you have to walk, or jumps in your car with muddy feet, or eats your groceries out of your car while you`re running them in the house ~ you simply ignore it. You don`t get upset if their children throw rocks at your brand new car either. There were many `rules`! *wink*

I had `prophesied` (if you will) that their children would grow up to be the same kind of adults as their parents. And thus far, they are. They are disrespectful, inconsiderate, etc. ~ They were never taught otherwise!

Our children will grow up to practice exactly what we`ve taught them! Depending on the social circles in which they are involved, and other environmental exposure, they might learn a little better or worse. Initially, though, we teach them basic principles to grow on.

Therefore, if we teach them vengeance (or condone it), they will indeed learn it. If they learn that it is acceptable behavior, they will practice it. This certainly is NOT acceptable behavior. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Romans 12:19

It is truly not our place to seek our own vengeance. The urge to be vengeful is of the flesh. Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself: I am the LORD. Leviticus 19:18

We are to leave vengeance and judgment up to God`s discretion. For we know Him who said, "VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY." And again, "THE LORD WILL JUDGE HIS PEOPLE." Hebrews 10:30

He has kept the ultimate list of good and bad. O LORD our God, You answered them; You were a forgiving God to them, And yet an avenger of their evil deeds. Psalm 99:8

Labels: Revenge, Vengeance

Guilt, Depression, Anxiety, Hopelessness, Self-Pity, Loneliness, Sadness . . . these are all `junk` that come in the form of bad thoughts. The enemy uses these tricks to make you vulnerable and ultimately try to overtake you.

We`ve talked about the power of positive thinking and that is extremely important. It is also very hard if you have bad thoughts attacking your mind. It`s kind of like a football game [which I know very little about].

The positive thinking is the `offense`; it is a proactive effort for improved mental health. On the other hand, you have to rebuke the bad thoughts in a `defensive` maneuver against the enemy. This is a battle you have to fight with the Word of God! Turn to my reproof, Behold, I will pour out my spirit on you; I will make my words known to you. Proverbs 1:23

When you are tired, hungry, over-worked, [most Moms I know fit in at least one of these categories] these are great times for the enemy to whisper things like, `you`re useless`, `you`ll never amount to anything`, `you can`t do that`, `you`re under qualified for that`, `no one really loves you`, `you`ll always be poor`, and that awful list is endless!

We have to stand strong in the Word and in the Love of God and rebuke these bad thoughts! At thy rebuke they fled; at the voice of thy thunder they hasted away. Psalms 104:7

There are so many day-to-day struggles that we face, and the enemy uses these as entry points. When you gain a few extra pounds, when you don`t get the job you applied for, you notice a new gray hair or wrinkle . . . the first thing that pops in your head is negative! [It`s happened to all of us for one reason or another.] Arm yourself in the Word of God and stand firm in the knowledge that you are a daughter of the Almighty God! "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9

He made you for a purpose; He made you special, beautiful, loving, kind ~ HE made you! Sisters, He does NOT make mistakes!

Go look in the mirror, tell yourself how beautiful you are and that you are a conqueror! Behold, the LORD thy God hath set the land before thee: go up and possess it, as the LORD God of thy fathers hath said unto thee; fear not, neither be discouraged. Deuteronomy 1:21

Labels: Discouraged, Positive Thinking

Well, we`ve discussed a lot of `junk` this week and we`ve also discussed friendships.

Something else that can take you by surprise is when you realize that some people really just aren`t your friends and don`t care too much about you. Sometimes, you realize that a friendship is `junk`! *wink* It can be a very devastating time. I even lost a job once, because a `friend` of mine was more motivated to assume my position than to be a loyal friend! WOWIE! What a blow!

Divorce is another great test for friends. During my divorce, my ex-husband forced most of `our` friends to choose between us. I found that although they said they weren`t `choosing`, they just quit talking to ME! *big smile* In fact, the only friends I kept were friends that were originally `mine` to begin with!

Any type of separation like this is a good guide. You will figure out very quickly who your true friends are.

But enough of that. These are just more examples of `junk`. For it is not an enemy who reproaches and taunts me ~ then I might bear it; nor is it one who has hated me who insolently vaunts himself against me, ~ then I might hide from him. But it was you, a man my equal, my companion and my familiar friend. We had sweet fellowship together and used to walk to the house of God in company. Psalm 55:12-14

When this happens, we have to turn our faces to the sun and rise above. Look toward God for comfort and relief and press on. As for me, I will call upon God, and the Lord will save me. Evening and morning and at noon will I utter my complaint and moan and sigh, and He will hear my voice. He has redeemed my life in peace from the battle that was against me [so that none came near me.], for they were many who strove with me. Psalm 55:16-18 Cast your burden on the Lord [releasing the weight of it] and He will sustain you; He will never allow the [consistently] righteous to be moved (made to slip, fall, or fail). Psalm 55:22 Amidst it all, God is good!

Then, He outdoes Himself! He blesses us with really, good, true-blue, `Thelma & Louise` ~ Totally Awesome Friends. There is little as valuable or precious as one of these kinds of friends. You can trust them with your secrets, your life, your children, your money, your car, with everything! They are so incredibly valuable, that they are far and few between and hard to acquire ~ like diamonds or gold!

Perhaps they could be considered Angels on Earth! Obviously, God really is with us at all times and He will always be the ultimate friend. A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24 Isn`t it nice to have an awesome gal pal too? Someone that God himself put here to share a good laugh, a good cry, crowning moments and the most devastating ones.

This is the woman who you know would get on a plane and fly 1000`s of miles to be with you in tragedy ~ or HAS! She`s the one that is sincerely happy that you`ve found a home after 3 years of searching. She`s the one that is happy you made a profit on a real estate sale and can finally get a REAL hair style or new pair of shoes. She`s the one that encourages you to try something new ~ especially when it`s a little [a lot] scary! She`s the one that relishes in every happy moment without begrudging you the success or prosperity! A friend loveth at all times . . . Proverbs 17:17

Yes, I believe these women are Angels! They are sent here by God to help nudge us in the right directions and help us survive!

Give your Angel a hug today and thank her for being who she is! *big hug*

Labels: Friendship, Loyalty, Trust